The “Educator”

I was having a conversation with an “educator” couple of days back. He was ranting about how ungrateful the youngsters he was working with him were. He said he was doing whatever he could to prepare them for the “future” including spending his own time, money and effort much more than he was being paid for.

Elango at an outing with ET Ideas associates.

However, he felt frustrated because the youngsters did not appreciate whatever effort that he did. On top of that, they were being difficult, lazy and never took any of his instructions seriously.

Hence, our meeting….. he observed that I seem to be able to get the younger generation to move effortlessly.

I couldn’t help smile and shake my head listening to the word “effortlessly”.

He was puzzled looking at my reaction. I said something “looks effortless” because of a lot of effort has been taken in the background. He asked me to explain.

I got him to read the quote by Horace Mann and asked him to focus on the last sentence, “…. It requires long hours, patience and care.”

At times teachers are too focused on what they want to teach and getting youngsters to learn as soon as they can whatever they are being taught.

At times there is this tendency to forget that the focus is supposed to be on the youngsters’ growth and not on the teacher’s effort, time etc.

When I “work” with youngsters, I am “listening” to them. Observing their body language, understanding what’s behind their words and of course being a friend.

Most parents and teachers tell me that I am slow and I allow too much freedom for the youngsters I work with. Yes, guilty as charged. What they don’t see me doing is my “listening”.

Through my observation, I learn what makes them “tick”, what makes them sad, what shuts them down, what gets them to talk, be creative, take action etc.

To me this is very, very important. It is no point trying to educate anyone if they are not in the right frame of mind. The idea is to create a conducive environment to teach and guide.

A lot of times when we mention environment, we emphasize in the type of school, friends etc. A far more important environment than this is the ability of the teacher to adapt to the student and not expect the student to adapt to the teacher. In the beginning stages the onus is on the teacher to make this happen.

Over time, listening and observing to the youngsters, I earn their respect. How? I don’t judge them. I don’t scold them or reprimand them for their mistakes. I don’t tell them what to do.  I don’t talk to them in a condescending way. I am truthful to them. If I don’t know something, I just tell them I don’t know.

I don’t try to show the “holier than thou” thingy. Example, at times they get scolded for doing “not right” things at home or school by teachers/ parents/ guardians.  I share with them what happened to me when I was their age and did what they did. Guess what? Obviously I get scolded too. We then laugh over it. Then I explain to them why they do these things that drive parents and teachers nuts. Here I show them what their subconscious mind is doing. I finish it off at times by saying that I wish I had someone pointing this out to me those days. This is true. If I understood, at least I will try to behave better.

My friend, the “educator” said that what I was doing required a lot of work and time. But he has very little time and many youngsters to work with.

When he said that, I laughed and replied, “There you go again….. It is ALL about you, isn’t it? Not the youngsters”. He was about to say something when I asked him to listen first what I got to say. He nodded in silence.

To me, the youngsters are the finest creation of Nature. Every new child who comes into this world is freshly designed and grown by Nature. The child is carrying all the latest instructions, plans and knowledge directly from Nature. Can you imagine this? You are truly, truly blessed when you work with youngsters. They are fresh from God, they are not corrupted by the ways of the capitalist world and so full of ideas.

To me, I am privileged to be working with them. It brings out the child in me. To be able to be creative, funny and truthful. Truly blessed I am.

At times, they do get upset with me when I suggest something for them to direct their energy. When this happens, I don’t get upset back at them. I become aware that something in their programming or my lack of understanding of them caused this. I back off and give them time and space. Then I approach them again. I am the first to apologize. I do not tell them or demand any apologies from them.

In other words, I treat them as a friend. I treasure their friendship with me. As such, I do my best to make amends. My goal is to learn from them and at the same time get them to see what they are passionate about and help them to turn their passion into reality.

At this point, my friend said that what I am doing is not practical with his situation dealing with many youngsters and they need to learn many things within the time allocated to educators like him.

I laughed again and said to him that he still doesn’t get it. He is still talking about himself and his situation and not about the kids he is working with.

The problem is most educators think of the youngsters they work with as machines. Put them all in one level based on age and expect them to learn things and pass exams and move on to the next level. Sounds like a factory production line doesn’t it?

Yet, this obsolete system is glorified all over the world because it produces machines with certificates at the end that work for the 1% elite capitalist section of the population. Ridiculous isn’t it?

Each one of the youngsters who are not “corrupted” yet, have capacities far beyond all supercomputers put together. The funny thing about human beings is they spend more money on mundane supercomputers by giving it the best care and comfort. They work only with the best programmers and serviced by the best. Billions of dollars are spent on them. However, with the youngsters…… I rest my case. You know how it works.

My friend looked at me and said that I think very highly of the youngsters but at times they can be real brats and a pain in the ass.

Again, I laughed but I agreed with him this time. I said I have encountered many different type of youngsters. Some had sweared at me with cursive language even in public at times. Some ask me of my ulterior motives of being patient and nice. Some treat me really bad. They don’t reply me when I ask something. In fact, they outright ignore me. Some simply refuse to communicate with me even though I try many times to communicate with them. Some make fun of me. I know but I take it in my stride. Sometimes, I cringe inside when I see them make mistake or miss out on a huge opportunity simply because they are stubborn. However, when they make the mistake or realize they missed out on an opportunity, I am there for them assuring it is okay and that they are learning. Sometimes I get scolded by them because I didn’t warn them ahead, even though I did. Sometimes they start of strong in the things they are passionate about then lose the momentum, especially when they are close to reaching their goals. I will do my best to motivate them. Suddenly they disappear and do things totally unrelated to their passion. I wait for them to come back. While waiting, I am praying and hoping they would not miss out on the opportunity that awaits them. Then when they do come back, most of the time I need to start back from scratch and build them again. As long as they come back and show sincerity in wanting to change and move, I work with them. I ONLY let them go only if they decide to leave. Probably I am not a good enough teacher or simply not the right teacher.

My friend was a bit taken aback with what I said.  But he recovered and asked does that mean I agree with him that these youngsters are brats and a pain in the ass. When he said this, we both burst out laughing.

After quieting down, I said to him that I don’t agree with him. As much as I want to agree with him, I can’t because I know it is not true. The youngsters emulate their environment. Their family, friends and teachers. At this point my friend said that I am blaming teachers like him. I said I am not. I am merely pointing out the real problem. The subconscious mind of a child is absorbing immense amount of knowledge from the external world. However, it is not absorbing what you teach or preach. It is absorbing your vibes. For example, if you teach in anger, it is absorbing the anger vibes more than what you are teaching. If stress then your stress. If you are doing “drama”, they absorb your ability to do “drama”. Basically your words, tone of voice and gestures. All this they absorb and use it later with their friends. As they “practice” this, it becomes their way of life. If you the teacher cannot change and are stubborn, they too absorb that.

As such, it is not the fault of the youngster if they behave as such. It is the adults who are aware who bear the responsibility to help them to correct it by creating this awareness in them.

However, they would not be able to change immediately. It will take time. Because it took time to build. Patience is needed. 

My friend shook his head and said that he understands better what I said but he said it is practically impossible to implement what I am doing in current world education system. I smiled and said that I am not doing that. I smiled and said I am building an alternate system with ET Ideas and Ascendance.

The chances are I will fail. The odds are against me. The system is against me. Even some of my “friends” are against me. Even some “teachers” are against me. Well….. all that does not matter….. Nature is with me.

I wished my friend, the “educator” the best and moved on.

 

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Elango Thiyagu

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